The difference between want and need is an important aspect for Sporting Parents. It doesn’t sound that important but to be the best parent you can be you must be able to distinguish between them.
We are all under so much pressure (PC) to ‘deliver what our children want’ that we can get drawn into believing that people (your sporting child) actually know what they want and is that what they really need? It is important to state that sometimes they are the same, but good parenting will always check. A great example of the difference between want and need is if you ask a youngster what they want to eat everyday and most will say Fish and Chips (or McDonalds), but is that what they need? If we only deliver what your child wants, how do we introduce a new idea? Good parenting makes a need into a want. Thus the emphasis is on education/training as if we educate young people about the benefits, they are more likely to be receptive and accept they may need that product. This is where our skills of presentation are important as if we are not good at communicating a message we will not get the message across and an opportunity to introduce a product/theme as a need is lost. Something that does not last is hardly a need and is just a passing want and there are many examples and generally come about through extensive promotions. That is why McDonalds have to come up with new burgers etc, as they are ‘wants’ for people rather than needs. Family cooks spend hours presenting healthy food in a way that children might accept them, as the cook believes it is a need. These foods very rarely get promoted yet are part of our basic family education that gets passed down through the generations. This subject of wants and needs is extensive and relates to people needing to do/say things or do they just want to do/say it. With people, this generally relates to convenience, comfort zones and boosting ones self image. It is your role as a parent to attempt to introduce ‘needs’ into the life of your sporting child for their benefit and they could be life style needs, nutritional needs, fairplay issues, time management issues, teamwork issues or relaxation needs. You do not have to know much about sport, as your broader life experiences will assist you. They do not have to be complicated or large in number but will be obvious when the need arises. Most times the young person will come to understand the needs from the wants through experience and that is life’s learning process, but there will be times when parents must attempt to shorten that learning process. An important role for parents is after their child has experienced something that you could have told them - attempt to summarise the experience very briefly and ensure it is part of the conscious mind of the child (memory - rather than something happening and is never thought about again) and so the chances of them learning from the experience is considerably improved. The basis of these discussions is honesty rather than a more convenient ‘tell them what will make me more popular’. The truth is what they NEED to hear yet may not be what you might WANT to tell them. They may not like what you say in the short term but will respect you for it in the long term. As we get older we understand more and more about what our parents tried to explain to us. Identifying a want from a need in a number of areas is important in the learning process of your sporting child. It is the time of year when we think about who we believe is New Zealand’s best sportsperson for this year. This is brought about by the media who is short of sporting action perhaps, a general ending of a year’s work or activity, leisure time on our hands enabling us to review certain subjects and that fact that it is just a very good idea!
Richie McCaw and the All Blacks will be the first topic of discussion with most New Zealand males at least and rightly so, what an incredible performance for McCaw to Captain the All Blacks in 100 Tests and have such an impressive winning percentage. However rugby suffers from being a team sport without the plethora of stats that many other sports can produce to back up cases in subjects like this. The Commonwealth Games athletes, Cyclists and Rowers did do very well as usual and the ladies hockey team, softballers doing well again, the women’s football team with their steadily improving performances are all very creditable performances. Swimmers are also producing some good performances and Valerie Adams being the best Shot Putter in the world again (a huge number of events without being beaten legally) which unfortunately is a sport that is limited to but a few. Her achievement of being the best athlete in the world appears a reward for dominating an event for many years rather than an extraordinary year as her year is much the same as most other years she has had. We are also encouraged by a seemingly never ending promotional effort from NZ Cricket to believe that Brendon McCullum’s should be the New Zealander of the Year, Sportsperson of the Year and whatever else they can think of claiming he is misunderstood and is really a very nice person. They seem to be forgetting the New Zealand sporting public will never forget what was done to Ross Taylor and that he has an injunction stopping some information reaching the public domain. There is no doubt his performances have been extremely good in 2014, to have two double hundreds and a triple hundred is incredible although many question the circumstances in which he made his last double hundred as the Pakistani’s at best seemed confused about how they should act after the death of Philip Hughes. Before that double hundred NZ Cricket chose Ross Taylor as their top cricketers for the year so all this cricket thing is a bit confusing really. However my selection is none of those, for me one person stood out and in a sport that is played over four days of most weeks of the year and by most of the countries in the world and is available to most people both male and female. Lydia Ko for me has had an incredible year and has performed on a weekly basis to a level where she is the third top ranked player in the world in her first year of being a professional, the top money earner and winner of the season ending ‘Championship’ Tournament on the US Ladies Tour – all as a 17 year old. The performance of a golfer is recorded stroke by stroke and you can’t be in the top 3 or the top Money Winner if you are not consistent or at worst have a very hot streak for a few weeks, which is harder to achieve in women’s golf due to the fact that they play for less money. About two years ago I and a colleague met with Lydia, her mother and her then coach and we discussed how she might gain financial support as she was at the time an amateur needing to tour the world. We chatted about targeting a few people who might be supportive but said in the end the best way to get funds was to play well. Money is now a problem she should not have and I would think that discussion that led her nowhere is but a distant recollection of a wasted trip to Hamilton! She does appear to be an exceptional athlete and person and it will be interesting to watch how she reacts to this early success as the temptations are to believe that to get better she has to radically change what has got her this far. An incredible performance and a delightfully innocent young person. For me Lydia Ko is the Ohaupo Community News New Zealand Sportsperson of the Year with the only question being how many more might she win? The Kaipaki Oval Pavilion Project has started with the bank being shifted back to the trees giving a boundary of 59 metres on the trees side of the artificial pitch and still 43 on the other. The grass is growing well and will be fine for play this summer. Unfortunately the process of planning and consent from WDC is taking longer than anticipated but the steel framed two storied building will be worth waiting for as machinery and tools can be kept downstairs along with a spare dressing room and there will be changing rooms, showers, bathrooms, kitchen and social area upstairs with seating for approximately 50 out the front of the Pavilion. The picket fences will be retained and a grass block ready for the 15/16 season we hope. Will keep you all up to date with the project as it develops. “We are very grateful to Steve Reymer Ltd for doing all the excavation work and we would not be able to complete this project without the help of people like Steve Reymer. I hope all who read this will note this firm and contact them when appropriate work arises as people can’t keep doing community work if they in return are not supported. Again many thanks." Regards John Parker Chairman Kaipaki Community Centre Ph +6421930145 Email johnp@sportmt.co.nz Skype THESMTGROUP SECOND Working Bee
Saturday Sept 27th- 9-12 noon (BBQ) and game Bring your OWN tools. We need to prepare the Scoreboard for repair, the ground for starting the building of the new pavilion, the bank for joining onto the new Pavilion, prepare the picket fence, prepare Putting surface, prepare Petanque area, clean up bank and new playing surface, prepare decking of existing Pavilion and more. These are the days that prepare the Oval for cricket and to help out Kaipaki, I know we can rely on you, see you there. John Parker Chairman Kaipaki Community Centre Kaipaki has instigated a relationship with Allendale Cricket Club, North of England and last season hosted two cricketers Charlie Parker and Tim Raglan for the New Zealand summer. In return Hugo Bothma and Kendall Nolan went to Allendale and are spending the summer over there playing in the weekend and doing some ground work plus other money earning roles during the week. The Parker family were over in Scotland and England during July 2014 and visited Hugo and Kendall at Allendale Cricket Club. We had lunch with John and Tim Raglan at the local and visited the Allendale Cricket Club which I must say is a lovely cricket ground indeed. As the photos show the ground is quite a way down a sealed drive through some trees and into the ground area which is surrounded by trees and has a Pavilion on a bank and a lovely outfield and good looking wicket block. Hugo and Kendall are loving the experience and were told to come back with some ideas as to how things could be done better at Kaipaki. John Parker Chairman Kaipaki Community Centre Dear Kaipaki Nation, Unfortunately last week Kaipaki Cricket Stalwart Ray O Connor passed away aged 58. Ray was the backbone of Kaipaki Cricket for many years during the 70’s, 80’s and early 90’s. He managed and captained Kaipaki during some of the clubs most famous years. Kaipaki won many titles during his time at the club. Well before email, facebook and cell phones Ray was instrumental in fielding 4-5 teams most Saturday’s. The passion he had for his local community drove his actions and Kaipaki Cricket benefited from this greatly. I have attached a couple of articles and old score sheets that Ray sent to me recently. He was very proud of the fact that Kaipaki has been able to re build itself over the last couple of years. In his last email to me back in March he stated that Kaipaki’s success last summer “warmed the hearts of us ex Kaipaki cricketers”. Between John Parker, myself and other Kaipaki cricketers of Ray’s era, we will agree on an initiative to honour Ray’s contribution to Kaipaki Cricket. Kind regards, Kent Currie Kaipaki To Announce Plans For New Pavilion
Pavilion Presentaion: Kaipaki Oval, 6.00pm This Friday, 16th of May 2014 Kaipaki will build a new pavilion in readiness for the Cricket World Cup in February 2015. Although the Kaipaki Nation have not yet received an official invite from the ICC, they are expecting to get one once it becomes public that Afghanistan will no longer be part of the tournament due to the fact they are not very good. Kaipaki Cricket Enthusiast has stated “ being included in the 2015 Cricket World Cup will be a significant step for to our little cricket club. However, the ICC have made it clear that we need to upgrade our facilities so we are in the early stages of building a new pavilion” “We also have to push the banks back as the ICC budget only allows for so many balls to be used during any one game” Currie included Kaipaki will be in Pool A and will compete against the likes of England, Sri Lanka, New Zealand and a mouth watering fixture against Australia. There is already murmurs that Australia will have to play in a different coloured strip as Kaipaki’s constitution, that was drawn up by John Parker, clearly states that at no stage will Kaipaki play in colours other than green & gold. Kaipaki have also made the promise to the ICC not to select Taz Kapadia for the tournament due to anti-corruption laws. Currie says” This will be a tough pill for Kapadia to swollen but he has been warned in the past about his match fixing and he hasn’t really been able to overcome it. He cost the Kaipaki Senior C team a championship last season because of his ability to determine results of games. However this will give him a chance to holiday for 6 weeks in the Carribean, south of France and also Thailand where he has holiday homes” Kaipaki Oval’s new capacity is expected to rise to 75. They expect to fill these seats during February. There is a presentation on Friday at 6pm at Kaipaki Oval where Kaipaki Passport holders can view and ask questions about the new Pavilion plans. Hello To Kaipaki Nation,
After the success of last year’s tour of Australia I am organising another Kaipaki Cricket Tour….. to Queenstown. I invite all WAGS and players to confirm there availability by next Friday the 9th of May 2014. There is no set numbers for this tour – if we need to take 2 teams so be it! Obviously we would like no less than 11 though! Tour Itinerary (Auckland Anniversary Weekend) Friday 23rd January 2015 · 7.10am Flight departs Auckland · 9.10am Flight Arrives in Queenstown · 10.00am Early check in to Tanoa Aspen Hotel · 1.00pm Shotover White Water Rafting (Whole Touring Party) · 6.00pm Team Dinner and Social Activities Saturday 24th of January 2015 · 9.00am Kaipaki King Of The Mountain Race (in teams) · 12.00pm Kaipaki King Of The Mountain Prizegiving and lunch at Cadrona Hotel (Whole Touring Party) · 6.00pm Team Dinner and socializing – planned by the team that wins Kaipaki King Of The Mountain Sunday 25th of January 2015 · 10.30am Cricket Match vs Queenstown Cricket Club at Queenstown Events Centre · 6.00pm Aftermatch Function organised by the Queenstown Cricket Club Monday 26th of January 2015 · Free Time · 4.40pm Flight departs · 6.30pm Flight arrives in Auckland Cost Per Person (based on 20-25 people) $829 including GST Price includes – Return Airfares, 3 nights in Tanoa Aspen Hotel with a complimentary cooked breakfast, Shotover White Water Rafting, 2 x 12 seat minivan for our entire stay. You will need to add your own spending money onto this price obviously. Payment $100 deposit will need to be paid by the 6th of June 2014 and the remaining balance is due to be paid in December 2014. Yours in heading to England because I miss cricket, Kent Currie Kaipaki Cricket Enthusiast Hello Everyone,
Hope you are all well? Street V Street this year will run from Wed 19th Jan to March 26th (6 weeks – play everyone plus finals day). This event has disintegrated into an evening for a few (which is fine) but we could be getting more people in our community involved and mixing with others. We need a greater effort from our organisers!!! Let me know if you or someone else can do this organising for your street ASAP. We will have the same format – 6 a side cricket, Petanque and tennis. Teams to be; Ohaupo – Fosters Geoff, 07-823 6949 or foz-vic@xtra.co.nz Kaipaki West – Mel Sutherland, (07) 823-6106 or Kaipaki Cricket – Kent Currie 021944710 kentc@mooloo.co.nz Kaipaki East – Fraser Smith fraser.smith@xtra.co.nz Mystery Creek Rd – Parkers 8236368 johnp@sportm.co.nz Parallel Rd – David Smith 8236430 or whererucrazy@hotmail.com Rules; · 8 week competition to find the Kaipaki’s Top Street (Trophy Prize) and 8 week competition after Christmas with Trophy being re-awarded. · Points accumulated each week · 3 points to win each separate sporting activity each night · 1 extra point if a female participates in each sport · If you don’t have a female participating then one point comes off that Streets accumulated competition total – could lose maximum of 3 points if no females play on any one night. · One guest player not from your street is permissible · If teams are late and cause delay to start up (and delays to other rounds) 3 points can be deducted by the Event Manager · 12 points available each week to each team · Draw and points table will be on www.kaipaki.com Cricket; · 6 players per team · 5 overs each team · Bowl from one end · Maximum 6 balls per over and 2 runs per wide or no ball · Full toss over waist high is a wide, bouncer over shoulder high is a wide · Maximum of 18 balls per batsman · Cricket Adjudicator keeps score, umpires and makes all decisions · Game must be over within 45 minutes · Leave gear tidy for next round Petanque · 4 people in Petanque team · Play until cricket is finished · Leave equipment tidy for next round Tennis · Two games of doubles · Pairs swop when half way in cricket game and finish when cricket game ends or 45 minutes is up · Score numerically until changeover or end of time (example 32/21) · Five serves each always starting from the right hand side. Order of serving is same as normal tennis · Whoever is leading at changeovers (half time in cricket and end of cricket game) win that doubles match · Four games in each round with 3 points to the winning team and in the case of a draw both teams will get 2 points. Thoughts please? Can you have teams organised asap and let me know that you have received this email and that all is in order? Our two English cricketers will help run the event when available and we will have an Event Manager – Ray Walker possibly, but no marketing people!! Regards John Parker Chairman Kaipaki Community Centre Ph +6421930145 Email johnp@sportmt.co.nz Skype THESMTGROUP |
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